Expectations and expectations, expectations from your family, friends, colleagues and the list go one!! Sometimes capable enough to fulfill and sometimes handicapped not even to fulfill one expectation. There are two theories to expectations:
1. I always thank one of my friends who taught me not to expect anything from anyone, not even from your dearest ones. Not everyone can fulfill your expectations, some are not able enough and some might not see any justification in fulfilling your expectations. Not expecting from anyone comes with a lot of advantages, first being, you never end up being hurt when you see your expectations falling flat on the ground and secondly sometimes comes as a surprise when someone unexpectedly fulfill your expectations. In fact, don’t expect anything from your life. The biggest reason of frustration in life is when your expectations from life don’t fulfill.
2. And, then there is another friend of mine who strongly believes “Relationship is meaningless without expectations”. If someone expects something from me and I don’t end up fulfilling it, then I am an insensitive animal who doesn’t deserve to be treated in a nice manner. Not fulfilling expectations is a sign of insensitiveness, cruelty, impolite behavior. So, if I had to be a sensitive and a respected individual, then I should treat everyone’s expectations with respect and try my level best to fulfill it.
Now, I am in a fix, which one is a better doctrine of expectation. I being an individual have my own limitations and constraints and just because I don’t fulfill someone wishes sometimes, does that mean I am insensitive?? What about my expectations and wishes?? If I have not bothered to accuse anyone of not fulfilling my expectations and wishes, why people accuse me?? I have been in a journey of success and failures, good and bad friends, best and worst moments and yes, I have complained about it and the only person to whom I complained is myself. Somewhere or the other, it’s me who have designed my own life, taken decisions which have affected my life, so why do I have to keep pointing fingers on others for the sheer pain that I undergo because of my expectations and wishes not being fulfilled. Yes, I do believe, when expectation is matter of responsibility, then you need to fulfill it but sometimes the queue gets too longer for you to fulfill it.
And no, I am not an insensitive animal for being a ruthless averter of expectations. And, yes, I am not here to prove a point to everyone, it’s the perspective of the people and everyone have their own perspective and I respect it. I have lived 25 years, almost 40% of my life and at this juncture, I need not have to shout from the top of the roof that I am justified in my actions. That’s the way I am and that’s the way I will be and if you expect me to be something else, god help you!!!
